When I came home after working for Club Med in 1987, I moved in with my parents for a few months while looking for a new job. After awhile, I had managed to have saved enough and was ready to move on my own again. That’s when I reconnected with a college friend of mine and we decided to share an apartment together… We had been on vacation together and it had gone very well, we had some other friends in common, so it made sense…
At first, all was well, I was working evenings and he was working days, so we weren’t in each other’s grills too much and on the weekends, we went out to bars and clubs and always had a good time. We hosted some pretty fun parties too…
After a couple of years of living together, he started dating a co-worker of mine and things were ok at first, then it changed… almost like I had suddenly become a third wheel… I didn’t care one way or another that they were dating, so I can’t really explain why he started acting so weird around me…
One day he told me that someone called for me but he couldn’t take a message because he couldn’t find a pen to write it down, he describe the call as a man that sounded like a woman, and the phone number was probably 514-something something 7- something 8 9 something… he couldn’t be sure… Little things like this. I also had a Nintendo game system with Super Mario Bros and Duck Hunt. The 3 of us played quite often at first and then one day, the gun for the duck game disappeared… he had no idea where it had gone…
One day I got a letter in the mail with just a cut out picture of me in it… someone had taken a picture I was a part of, cut out my head and mailed it to me, no return address…
One day, my YMCA gym bag had disappeared. Just vanished… I looked everywhere for it… just gone. I had to buy new running shoes and toiletries.
One day, after hanging up the telephone, I mentioned this friend of mine from UK was sending me a fun mixed tape with cool music from the clubs he hung out at in London… I never received it… A few weeks later, I asked if there had been any post for me as I had not received anything AT all for awhile, it was unusual in those days before emails. I decided to test Canada Post and sent me an envelope from work with some documentation at first and a few days later I sent one with a book inside… those envelopes never arrived…
One day, after rushing out the door as I was running late for a movie with a friend, I left my dishes by the sink thinking I’d be able to take care of it when I came back home later on that day… I returned home finding them on my bed… According to my roommate, he had no idea how they got there…
It was time to get the fuck out of there… I decided to talk to the one I used to work with, “the boyfriend”, about all these shitty things that had happened in the last few months and he tried to pretend he didn’t know what I was talking about and then, probably out of embarrassment he confessed that it was my roommate, he had been hiding my mail for awhile… not only my mail, but every little thing that had disappeared… He went into their bedrooms and brought out a couple of bags full of my stuff…
I wasn’t sure what to do… I saw red… completely red… I didn’t know if I should punch his lights out, and even though he was much bigger and taller than me I think I would’ve knocked him out I was so enraged. I just took the bags, brought them to my bedroom, head spinning like I just came out of Alice’s Tea Party at Disney World, and then I left. I went outside, jumped on my bicycle and went for a long ride… I drank a bit too much for my own good that night and came back totally drunk. It was Saturday morning, the timing was perfect, I spent the next 24 hours in bed… and then on Sunday, I started looking for an apartment of my own…
I was dating a guy at the time, it had just been a few months but it was fairly serious… After telling him what had happened, he insisted I came and spent time at his place… I ended up moving with him shortly after… just so happy to leave these other two guys behind, I moved out without really telling them while they were both at work. I took 4 bottles of wine from their cupboard. I felt they owed me a drink or two. I went on full ignore as far as both were concerned.
I saw one of them about 10 years later, after I had moved to Toronto and was visiting Montreal on a long weekend. We were at a bar and the ex-co-worker/boyfriend showed up. He came to say hello and apologized one more time. I told him it was ok, I had enjoyed the wine they had given me. I left without saying goodbye that night too.
Ah, the 80′s.. Thank god the music was so good.


























