Comments on: Friendship http://sharkboy.ca/2009/09/05/friendship/ Chances Are I Already Hate It! Mon, 21 May 2012 16:55:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Sharkboy http://sharkboy.ca/2009/09/05/friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-2647 Sharkboy Mon, 07 Sep 2009 17:48:26 +0000 http://sharkboy.ca/?p=2349#comment-2647 Thanks david, I know exactly what you mean, not sure either if straight people go through this or not but it does seem prevalent in the gay world. Dyl: 15 years ago, I would have pulled my hair out trying to figure out what had happened. Nowadays, it's so much simple to just move on and be thankful for what I have. And likewise, I'm always glad to step into your blog universe and see what you're up to, I think you're a great fun guy indeed. Thanks david, I know exactly what you mean, not sure either if straight people go through this or not but it does seem prevalent in the gay world.

Dyl: 15 years ago, I would have pulled my hair out trying to figure out what had happened. Nowadays, it’s so much simple to just move on and be thankful for what I have. And likewise, I’m always glad to step into your blog universe and see what you’re up to, I think you’re a great fun guy indeed.

]]> By: Dyl http://sharkboy.ca/2009/09/05/friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-2645 Dyl Sun, 06 Sep 2009 21:51:59 +0000 http://sharkboy.ca/?p=2349#comment-2645 As you say, friendships come and go. It might be worthwhile thinking why you yourself haven't sought this person out in all this time; sometimes people we think of as friends only think of us as drinkig acquaIntances for example. As people get older they experience different things and are drawn to new ideas, ways of thinking and interests and it stands to reason those friends and acquaintances who are associated with discarded pasttimes will also be discarded. That sounds harsh and I don't imagine you live your life in such a black and white manner; nor do I; but it happens nevertheless. That's the beauty of making new relationships and friendships that go with the updated version of you. I'm astonished that some people are still friends with folks they knew in high school and find it amazing they have such long-lived affinities. It can be perturbing why people sometimes become unfriendly but I wouldn't waste too much time dwelling on it unless you have a burning desire to rekindle that friendship. People come and go, and to paraphrase your wise husb from the other day, life isn't meant to be a popularity contest. Value the friendhipa you have and let the daft people make there own decisions. For what it's worth this new (blog) friend thinks you're fab. As you say, friendships come and go. It might be worthwhile thinking why you yourself haven’t sought this person out in all this time; sometimes people we think of as friends only think of us as drinkig acquaIntances for example.
As people get older they experience different things and are drawn to new ideas, ways of thinking and interests and it stands to reason those friends and acquaintances who are associated with discarded pasttimes will also be discarded. That sounds harsh and I don’t imagine you live your life in such a black and white manner; nor do I; but it happens nevertheless.
That’s the beauty of making new relationships and friendships that go with the updated version of you.
I’m astonished that some people are still friends with folks they knew in high school and find it amazing they have such long-lived affinities.
It can be perturbing why people sometimes become unfriendly but I wouldn’t waste too much time dwelling on it unless you have a burning desire to rekindle that friendship. People come and go, and to paraphrase your wise husb from the other day, life isn’t meant to be a popularity contest.
Value the friendhipa you have and let the daft people make there own decisions.
For what it’s worth this new (blog) friend thinks you’re fab.

]]> By: david http://sharkboy.ca/2009/09/05/friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-2644 david Sun, 06 Sep 2009 14:49:56 +0000 http://sharkboy.ca/?p=2349#comment-2644 This is a very wise post. Especially in "gay" life -- adult gay men get very close and then can part or drift on the thinnest of reasons -- perhaps straight people do this, too, But it is one of the ironies of gay mid-life -- that so many former friends have come and gone. Focusing on what you are doing now and the fact that this is just something that happens is better than trying to figure out some soap opera or pop psychology "reasons". It just is. You tried. You moved on. Be grateful for what you have not what once was. Lesson learned. There it is. This is a very wise post. Especially in “gay” life — adult gay men get very close and then can part or drift on the thinnest of reasons — perhaps straight people do this, too, But it is one of the ironies of gay mid-life — that so many former friends have come and gone. Focusing on what you are doing now and the fact that this is just something that happens is better than trying to figure out some soap opera or pop psychology “reasons”. It just is. You tried. You moved on. Be grateful for what you have not what once was. Lesson learned. There it is.

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